It turns out Rihanna is speaking more about her past issues
with Chris Brown, the guy who made her his own personal punching bag.
I never really connected to Rihanna, but this
statement …. it brought a lump to my throat.
“There were control issues, insecurity. When people are insecure, they become very controlling and they can get very aggressive and in turn abusive. It doesn’t have to be physical. Like, they would say bad stuff to you to make you feel lesser than them, just so they would have control in the relationship. It takes a big toll on your emotions and on your everyday life. It changes you.”
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All I can say about the above is … it’s true.
If it can happen to me .. if it can happen to a superstar like her,
I am pretty damn sure some young girl, or two, or three,
may be going through the same thing now. Perhaps even those I know?
If I can offer a word of advice to you if you are one of those girls …
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1) You must talk to someone about it. You must. Or you will not
understand you are in a warped world – you are not seeing right,
even if you think you are. You don’t want to tell your best friends the
truth because you love him and don’t want them to hate him, but you
are wrong.
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2) You must realise there is only so much you can do to change
someone. If you are crying more than you are happy, you cannot do
anymore. You think that he will see you so unhappy and change for you.
You are wrong. Leave.
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3) Never sink to their level. You would have changed and be pushed to
the very edge – you may find yourself behaving just as abusively as them.
You cannot help yourself because you are frustrated and think that it is
the only way he will really listen to you. You are wrong. Stop.
And leave.
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Abuse is not just physical.
I don’t regret some of the decisions I have made when it comes to love.
Perhaps though, I regret how I may have behaved, or how I allowed
myself to feel during difficult times.
I forgot that I was stronger than that.
I forgot that I was as classy as I was strong.
But all’s well. The lesson’s learnt.
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And to end on a happier, more hopeful note, just a little reminder …
This is what love should feel like :
Yes this is my picture. These are my friends, who I can't name. But look at them :)
I love seeing my friends in love.
xo
